This holiday season, when there is too much to do and not enough time to do it, give yourself the gift of grace. G. Generosity – Try not...

We all have a bucket of energy. It's our job and responsibility to keep our bucket full! Having a full bucket of energy means that we...

Many of the couples that I work with come in with really one goal -- each person wants to change their partner. If their partner would...

First, let's quickly recap my recent blog on triggered or FUSE thinking . FUSE thinking describes our intense thoughts when we are...

I developed this analogy with a former client who, as a child, was obsessed with Legos. The idea is that, on any given topic, we each...

Have you been called passive aggressive before? Do you know what that means? How do you know if you are passive aggressive? And if you...

Everyone knows you need to take care of your physical health. We need to exercise, eat right, go to the doctor and dentist, and...

Despite the title of this blog, I'm not a big fan of the word "triggered." I think it can be useful, but it has this sense of going from...

I read this book because it was recommended to me by a good friend. To be honest, I didn’t know how much I would get out of it. This...

In my last post, I talked about my acronym EARS , which describes green light and yellow light behaviors when responding to someone who...

For whatever reason, recently I've been privy to a lot of conversations where the person sharing feels frustrated and the person...

I am a Susan Cain fan. I’ve recommended her book Quiet to countless people. Quiet was her anthem to the unsung introverts amongst us and...

When I meet with couples for the first time, I take them through a presentation about the stages of relationship development on the...

When I started my training in couples counseling -- I read up on several theories that didn't resonate with me entirely either because of...

There are so many things that I loved about the Hulu series “The Bear.” But one thing that has particularly stuck with me is a beautiful,...

This is a theory I’ve been considering for a while. This diagram shows how I think our agency is impacted by how much responsibility we...

Photo courtesy of Caroline Hernandez on Unsplash Here are three words that are often used interchangeably: sweet, nice, and kind. But I...

In an earlier post, I talked about the differences between individual therapy and couples counseling. Of those 8 differences, I think the...

As I have been reading and integrating information, I have found that some sources provide a richer trove of information than others. One...

Photo by tabitha turner on Unsplash Most of us have an inner voice. For some of us, our inner voice is full of criticisms and mandates....