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COME-TO Toolkit

The COME-TO Method
A Toolkit to Help Couples Complain Constructively
Most couples don’t know how to complain constructively—leading to blame, shutdown, or defensiveness. The COME-TO Method gives therapists and coaches a step-by-step framework to help couples:
✅ Voice frustrations without criticism (so partners listen instead of defend).
✅ Uncover the real emotions beneath surface-level anger (hint: it’s rarely just about the dishes).
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